Common dating and relationship myths

Date gone badFinding the perfect partner is often a very difficult journey to undertake, and it could be for a number of reasons. For example, you may have only ever had very short relationships in the past, so you assume you are doing something wrong and that you’ll never find a lasting partner. You could be making the wrong choices along the way, and choosing the wrong type of person for you. Or it could be that you just don’t have the confidence to approach someone, or have a lack of confidence in yourself.

No matter what the reason may be, it’s important to realise and understand that it is possible for everyone to find love. Hard work, dedication and commitment are essential if you want to not only find a partner, but if you also want the relationship to be happy and healthy.

Here is a list of dating and relationship myths along with our suggestions of the actual reality –

Myth – “I’m afraid of rejection”

The reality

What is there to be afraid of? If you ask someone out and they say no, then so what! You will feel far more relieved that you actually took the plunge and were brave enough to ask someone out that you liked.

Fear of rejection is extremely common, but shouldn’t be something that any of us should worry about. How many times have you already let the person of your dreams slip by because you didn’t ask them out? And who knows, they might have said yes!

Myth – “If I’m not instantly attracted to someone, then it’s not worth the effort”

The reality

Couple on beachThis is one of the biggest reasons why poor choices are made when choosing a partner. A lot of people think that if they are not instantly attracted to someone, then it will never work. This is just not true, and there are lots of people that have been friends for a very long time and can eventually end up in a relationship together.

It’s important not to dismiss the possibility of a relationship with someone just because you don’t find them attractive right now, and be open minded to everyone in your life. You just never know who might suddenly catch your eye after all these years.

Myth – “I will only ever be happy if I can find a relationship”

The reality

Not everyone has to be in a relationship to be happy, and there are lots of people who prefer to be single. It could be that they are just not ready and the timing isn’t right, or it could be that they just prefer to enjoy the single life for a little while longer until they feel they’re ready.

Being single doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking hour searching for love, and it isn’t the only place you will find happiness. Don’t force the issue and have patience! Sometimes love will just find you, and if you’re happy being single for the time being, then don’t panic and rush into anything.

Myth – “Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all”

The reality

It’s better to be in a bad relationship than to be single right? Wrong! This is a common myth and one which will almost always end in disaster. Being a part of a bad relationship will leave you both unhappy – and life’s too short!

Don’t feel like you need to be in a relationship just because society or even your friends seem to think so. Your happiness is the most important thing, and there is no need to rush into anything that doesn’t feel right.

Myth – “I don’t like to argue and that’s all that happens in a relationship”

The reality

Sure, if you end up disagreeing and arguing a lot in a relationship, then it’s probably a good idea to step back and consider if they are the right partner for you. All couples will argue at some point during their relationship, and most of the time it’s considered healthy and natural.

In order to sustain a long healthy relationship, it’s important for couples to discuss their disagreements openly, and to let each other know how they’re feeling. Most arguments can be resolved easily if a couple can sit down together and talk rather than yell at each other.

One of the main reasons why a relationship doesn’t last is because couples find it hard to share their feelings with each other and help each other go forward. So no matter how scary it may seem when considering a relationship, you shouldn’t let the possibility of an argument put you off. Just accept that at some stage it will happen, and that you can both easily resolve it.

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